Maybe we are trying to meet every single person in order to be sure we have the best.
Maybe we have it all wrong.
Dating in today’s technology age is downright bizarre. Texting has replaced phone calls, sexting is the new whispering of sweet nothings in someone’s ear, and emojis are how feelings are shared with someone (I still have no idea what the penguins mean). The dating world has been turned upside down for us regular folks, what is it like for a celebrity? Well Aziz Ansari of Parks and Recreation fame is here to tell us and drop some serious knowledge on what it’s like to date using a smartphone, the Internet or dating sites and apps like OKCupid and Tinder.
In his book Modern Romance, Aziz (I doubt he’d want me to call him Mr. Ansari), along with NYU professor of sociology Eric Klinenberg, gets serious about why singles are having such a hard time finding The One. He uses research, focus groups and some serious data to explain to readers the trials, tribulations and basic craziness that comes with digital dating. He also went to several countries to find out if it’s the same in other cultures as it is in the good ole US of A (the answer is a resounding NO). For example in Tokyo, the number of men and women who are dating or in relationships has declined so drastically that the government has decided to intervene. But in the City of Lights aka Paris, singles there are nowhere near as uptight about sex, dating and infidelity as the rest of the world. Which means I need to move there right away.
Aziz doesn’t depend on being funny to make the book a good read (and it is funny). He uses real data from reputable psychologists, sociologists and other ists (and some sage words from rapper Pitbull) to express the frustration and general weariness singles have with the digital dating game. But the real insight came from the focus groups, where people laid it all out. They talked about their wants, dislikes and general frustration with dating. The chapter on the whole Tinder craze was eye-opening and confirmed that I will not be downloading that app. Ever. (Seriously, the last thing I want is some guy introducing himself by sending me a pic of his junk).
Modern Romance touches on many dating subjects that plague us these days, including monogamy, infidelity, marriage, sex and stuff I didn’t even think about (like the games people play when texting or the best poses for online dating pics). It also includes some experiences Aziz reveals to readers, some pretty cool (how he met his current girlfriend) and others that made me think he was joking until I Googled them (sex robots!). But he doesn’t stray far from the main topics, thankfully, or this could have been a very different book and not quite as interesting.
Some of the jokes he tells are a bit silly, but most are hilarious which made Modern Romance fun to read. I definitely recommend it.